How to approach writers for letters of recommendation

Your college application tells your story—but letters of recommendation bring it to life. These letters show admissions officers who you are beyond test scores and transcripts, highlighting your character, growth and potential. Here’s what you can do to help make your recommendations truly memorable.

1. Start Early and Build Real Connections
   The best recommendations come from teachers and mentors who truly know you. Start building those relationships as early as grades 9 and 10 by actively participating in their classes, joining their clubs, and seeking their guidance. Show them your curiosity, hard work, and passion. By grade 11, you’ll feel confident asking for a recommendation because they’ve already seen your journey firsthand.
2. Choose the Right People—Not Just Titles
   It’s tempting to ask someone with an impressive title–like the Assistant Principal or Head of School–but that’s a common mistake. Instead, opt for someone who truly understands your strengths and can share your story authentically, regardless of their title. A heartfelt letter from a teacher who has seen you grow will always carry more weight than a generic one from someone prestigious but distant.

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3. Ask Politely and Personally
   When it’s time to make your request, be polite and specific. Explain why you value their perspective and how their letter could strengthen your application. Whether you ask in person or through email, keep it personal—this isn’t just a transaction.
4. Help Them Help You
   Share your resume, a draft of your personal statement, and a list of colleges you’re applying to to help your recommenders write a great letter. Highlight key experiences or achievements they might include. This will help them paint a full, detailed picture of you.
5. Follow Up and Show Appreciation
   As deadlines approach, send a polite reminder to ensure everything stays on track. Once the letter is submitted, take time to say thank you—whether with a heartfelt email or a handwritten note. Thoughtful gratitude goes a long way!
6. Use Your Recommendations Wisely
   Review each college’s requirements to ensure you’re selecting the right recommenders. Some colleges are clear that they prefer letters of recommendation from grades 11 or 12, while others may request one from a teacher in a subject related to your intended field of study. Confirm that you’ve fulfilled all requirements so your recommendations can truly stand out.

Letters of recommendation aren’t just forms to complete—they’re part of your story. Build relationships, communicate clearly and express gratitude. When you do, your recommenders will write from the heart and admissions officers will see the best version of you. Book a call with us to discuss how we can help you find the best recommenders and craft a winning application strategy.